Technology destroys interpersonal communication

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 was taken aback by a recent Facebook status, not because it was shocking, but because it occurred to me how reliant we have become on technology.

Whether we rely on Facebook, Tumblr, Foursquare, iPhones, iPods or what-have-you, most individuals are connected to technology and the Internet at all times one way or another. Those who somehow manage to disconnect seem odd to the rest of us, when in fact it should be the other way around.

What have we gained from the interconnectivity of the world around us? Now we do not need to remember birthdays or anniversaries, we can skim through an article and just pull it up later when we need to recall the facts, and we don’t have to be face-to-face any more. As a society, we seem to be losing our social abilities.

This loss of contact — actual, physical contact — is just the beginning. We are losing more than our ability to interact; we are imparting on the youth of society the idea they can do everything through their bits and pieces of technology and access to the Internet. I see the potential, I do, but I see the damage that could be done and the damage that has already occurred.

My generation had computers in the home at the age of six or seven, at least I did. I’ve been using them ever since, and I know for a fact that I could never not have a computer. I live on mine, I rely on it, for my useless Internet wanderings and my schoolwork and my travel and my shopping and the list keeps going.

Is it convenient? Unquestionably. Does it contribute to my life? Maybe. Could I live without it?

Could any of us live without Facebook? Could any of us revert to the caveman-like days where the Internet was only there for research and e-mail? I doubt it.

I have tried, too.  

I deleted my Facebook account at the end of last spring semester, and for the entire summer it went swimmingly. I did not even want to be on Facebook. All of my friends were home, I was home, and I called whomever I wanted to talk to. I have to say it was nice being unavailable to everyone I had been “friends” with. If they wanted to talk they had to call, text, e-mail, etc. I was not completely free from the Internet, but I had definitely reverted.

There was no problem until I came back to Virginia Tech for the fall semester. All my Virginia friends were on Facebook, and I was not. I texted and called, and so did they, but the convenience of Facebook was undoubtedly missing. I had to go back.

The problem was not the will to communicate, but the effort we put into it. Facebook is more convenient than anything else — a problem I eventually realized — and because almost everyone (our age) we encounter uses it, it is the prime force of communication. So what does this mean for the future? Where will this take us?

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A version of this article appeared in the Oct 28 issue of the Collegiate Times.

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Anon | # October 28, 2010 @ 2:59 AM — Flag Comment

Totally agree, I have a facebook but only check it once a week...maybe? I use to use it a lot back in 2006 before it was popular but now I just don't have the time to write tons of posts and comments and consequently I don't have any activity to respond to. Sometimes I have a message or two and its nice to keep in touch with old friends or contacting people you just met and don't have any other way to contact them which is why I have a facebook, but I don't use it as my primary means of social interaction.

Sometimes I wish there was no facebook because maybe people would be more open and social to meeting others instead of hiding behind a facebook with 500+ fake friends.

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Status | # October 28, 2010 @ 3:27 PM — Flag Comment

Totally agree, as well.

I check my facebook account once every six months, and I have to say I consistently feel out of the loop. I refuse to give in, though. I just can't justify airing my current "status" to a few hundred "friends" constantly.

One day I came to the realization that most people didn't care if I was "cooking dinner," or "getting ready for the throwdown at 315 Janie Lane." It's such an egomaniacal attitude to think someone you met once at a party gives a damn what you're doing. Unfortunately, it has killed verbal communication, but it's the way we've gone as a society. It's truly a way of life - doesn't mean I have to like it, though.

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Taylor | # January 20, 2012 @ 3:15 PM — Flag Comment

Couldn't agree with you more brother. Facebook was created for good purposes, but instead it has been replaced with nothing but immature behavior, drama, and just pure stupidity and self-centeredness. I too am in college and part of the slim margain just like you that hates facebook, but still participates. Internet is the greatest and worst thing that has ever happened to humanity and eventually more people will join our side because of the worst has yet to come...

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Jackie | # February 2, 2012 @ 1:11 AM — Flag Comment

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Andrea | # May 16, 2012 @ 4:25 AM — Flag Comment

This is so true! Not just Facebook, but technology and social media generally have destroyed interpersonal communication. Like many others out there, I also have a thousand friends on Facebook, but I'm close to only a handful in real life. It's quite sad that there are so many people we communicate with online but barely share two words when faced with each other.

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Andrea | # May 21, 2012 @ 11:56 AM — Flag Comment

This is so true! Not just Facebook, but technology and social media generally have destroyed interpersonal communication. Like many others out there, I also have a thousand friends on Facebook, but I'm close to only a handful in real life. It's quite sad that there are so many people we communicate with online but barely share two words when faced with each other.

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