I am sure that we are all aware of holidays that are not universally celebrated. There are those who do not celebrate Christmas, Hanukah, Easter or Ramadan. Coming up, though, is Valentine's Day — and it’s safe to say that not everyone will be celebrating that. What I’m wondering, though, is why anyone needs to celebrate it?
Related: This is one of eight columns written for Valentine's Day 2011. Check out all the writers: Sara Brickman, Jason Campbell, Owen Davis, the Editorial Board, Noor Khalidi, Ben Woody, and Shelby Vasko and Jen Underwood.
This day is put aside for everyone in a relationship to celebrate their commitment to each other, but, isn’t that what anniversaries for? Is there any reason you don’t recognize your significant other at least once every few days?
I’m not saying I have a problem with couples being happy — I think it’s great. I’m just wondering why people need another day to be told to recognize that they are in a relationship. Don’t you know you’re in a relationship? Are you not aware of your boyfriend or girlfriend every other day of the year?
Valentine's Day bastardizes relationships. It sends out the message that this day, of all days, is when you should be crazy about your partner and proclaim your love to the world. It’s all a bunch of crap, really. If you’re dating, don’t you recognize it every day? I mean, you have to be an idiot not to.
Sure, I can see how nice and romantic it is to take someone out on Valentine's Day to enjoy each other’s company and reminisce about the past year, months or days. But again, isn’t that what anniversaries are for?
Maybe it’s because I’m single and I just don’t care, but even in the past when I’ve been dating on this “holiday” it just hasn’t meant anything. It’s a holiday I cannot understand to save my life.
We joke about how it’s just a huge scam by the card companies and candy makers, how it’s a big scheme to just make everyone pay for useless and almost meaningless things — but really, isn’t that what Valentine's Day is about?
I wouldn’t hesitate to say that most people follow along with Valentine's Day out of a feeling of obligation. If you are dating, you have to do something on this day — of all days. This is when you go to dinner, buy some flowers, sign a card and wear somewhat decent clothing. So then, what’s the big deal? What has prompted this major “holiday” into existing?