If you are reading this paper, more than likely you are a college student.
If you are a college student, more than likely you have sex on your mind.
If you have sex on your mind, more than likely you have or will experience its magical and terrifying caress.
Sex is a wonderful dance between people, but it can be scary and painful, both physically and emotionally. To make yourself sexually available is a very empowering and vulnerable thing.
Sex is a power struggle between those involved, as well as in politics and daily society.
College is a time to become independent from your childhood and explore that which you are free to become. But as we all know and deny, with all this freedom comes consequences.
Even though sex happens before college, it is far more tangible on a campus with thousands of young adults who are balancing liberation and stress.
A college campus presents a twisted form of reality. Everything is real, but many of the habitual activities are fleeting. Within this dizzying reality, many questions come into focus. One such question is sexuality.
College should be a safe haven to explore your identity, and it often is, but there is a difference between drunken heart to hearts, dining hall rants and conversations with trained counselors.
I think everyone needs a combination of talking to friends and counselors. I have considered seeing a counselor just to see what it’s like but have fought against it. I had visions of lying down on a couch, babbling to prevent awkward silence and then defending myself against some stuck up stranger that I’m not crazy — which would make me sound crazier.
But in reality, it’s not like that. Just because counselors are trained does not mean they will treat their patients as “Type A, B, C, etc.” Their training does not make them less personal or prevent them from seeing individuals, but it allows them to know what questions to ask. There are no solid answers to any of the problems human beings have. There are answers that help, but without certain questions and personal explorations, no one knows what those answers are.
If going to a counselor or group therapy is not an option you want to seize, then do not ignore the many campaigns that can be found on the Internet.
For example, The Trevor Project is a national organization “providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth,” according to its website.
The Trevor Project offers a free hotline to call at all times, as well as a letter service for non-time sensitive issues. The website is packed with information and resources to help yourself and others.
Sex, relationships and just day-to-day living is hard enough for those who are straight. But, people who are not straight must add the additional pressure of society.
I am a proud supporter of gay rights, but I completely respect those who are opposed. However, I do not respect those who intentionally hurt others. If you want to vote against gay marriage, fine, but don’t go out of your way to single people out. One off-hand comment here and there may not seem that bad, but if it makes someone the slightest bit weary of stepping out of their house in the morning, then it is poisonous.
If you don’t like gay people, then drop the fascination and focus on your own lifestyle. Go protest, go vote, go sign petitions. You can win legal battles, but the fight against gay existence is one that will never be won.
I am not an overly religious person, but I am spiritual. I believe that there is some greater being that started this all. My parents raised me Christian, but really want me to simply have faith. Faith should be a simple thing to have, but it has become such an important political tool that it has become harder to purchase and harder to construct anything stable with.
There is some being that created us, and while we have some control over our own evolution, if attraction was meant to be one way, then I think the great powerful being would make it so.