Tech Sex is a brand new, weekly column about sex on Virginia Tech's campus, written by Abby Broughton. Broughton, a junior Marketing major, will eventually be pursuing a Ph.D. in sex therapy, in the hopes to make a career out of sex therapy. If you have any questions or comments, email her at email@example.com
It’s your first week of college You probably have grand expectations of freaky weekend escapades that result in “romantic” stories of not knowing your partners first name, yet somehow having the best orgasms of our life.
Lets talk about what really happens behind closed doors… (Or should I say, kitchen counters, frat house basements, and in the dorm room while your roommate deeply sleeps next to you?)
When I came to college my freshman year, I had an embarrassingly incorrect perception of what sex in college was all about. So, with two years under my belt, here I am to help all of you look like a lot less of a fool than I did.
Let’s get a few things straight from the get-go: You will be hitting the books way more than you will be hitting the sheets. Sorry boys, older girls aren’t going to be begging you for sex. And girls, you will still call your mom crying about boys. Your roommate is going to walk in on you. And there won’t be fireworks when the sex is over after 3 minutes.
With that being said, there are a few things to know that will help you get through your first sexual exploits as a college student. It is important to remember that while you are having fun, you need to be safe, respectful and smart.
According to The National Center for Health Statistics, approximately 72 percent of college students have had some kind of sex during their studies. Unfortunately, only 43 percent use condoms regularly according to Discovery News. With the school year starting, it is important to remember that you can still have great sex while being safe. Getting pregnant or getting an STD can really put a damper on your hot fall fling. It’s better to be safe than sorry, kiddos.
Alcohol can be a beautiful thing… in moderation. Drunken one-night stands are all fun and games until someone starts bawling their eyes out about their ex, throwing up, or passing out on top of you. In order to avoid situations such as those, make sure that your potential partner does not appear to be blacked out or sick. You should always be sure that the decision is consensual, not just alcohol induced.
Last but not least, hooking up is not the only thing that goes on. 44 percent of college students report being in a serious relationship at least once in college, according to Discovery News. Do not be afraid of finding that “special someone” just because you think you want to reenact a “Girls Gone Wild” episode freshman year.
In these next few weeks, you will be meeting some of your lifelong best friends, as well as tons of potential partners. That does not mean cling to every boy or girl you find until you are sure you will have a ring on your finger by the end of the semester. Just have fun while exploring your options around campus. You never know who you might meet at your next part.
Just remember: It’s college— sex obviously happens. And it can be great. Just be cautious of who you get down and dirty with. I want to encourage you to explore your sexual side and figure out what works and doesn’t work for you. College is an important time to grow into your own skin, and sexual preferences are undoubtedly an important part of that process.
Over and out, sex kittens. Until next time.